Thursday, October 7, 2010
Searching for a Voice
And what a tremendous responsibility.
It made me think, again, of the prayer I have been saying - the mantra I have been repeating - for several years. 'May I speak my truth with courage, wisdom and love.' This prayer originated, really, with the second-guessing I continually put myself through either on my job or with my family and friends, or in my life in general. It seemed that at the end of the day I would find myself questioning the things I had said and their impact on the people around me............ Did I speak wisely? Was what I said fair and truthful? Did I make a fool of myself or, worse..... someone else?
So much of what is written or said is through the emotional lenses of anger and fear manifesting often as sarcasm and contempt - which only seems to inspire the same in others. My personal initial reaction to the expression of anger is to put up a wall and attempt to remove myself. Not healthy, I know, but as they say in some parts of the country.....'just sayin'.
It appears courageous to share anger and fear when that seems to be what is really going on. Whether it be the political situation or personal. Maybe it is discussing religion or relationships. The environment or education. But is it really the truth? And is it really effective?
I believe we have to look for the impulse behind the words that we speak - either out loud or in writing - to determine their impact. When we speak from anger, righteous or not, we speak from fear and a position of weakness. And people usually respond accordingly.
But, when we continue digging through the layers of anger and fear and keep looking for the kernel of truth we should eventually find it in love..... there is something, eventually, based in love that motivates us. Think about it - when we are angry or scared... isn't there always love threatened at the emotional center?
When we find the love based truth, then the words we speak can have the most lasting impact. When we speak our truth with courage wisdom and love then we can never question or second-guess what we say.
I think the secret of being heard always is and will ever be in using the language of love.